It turns out, you still need to eat…
“Are you done yet?” ~ Blaze, the wonder pup
Hello, there. I’ve taken so much time off from the blog, that as time has gone on it has become more and more difficult to restart things. I also felt maybe I should explain where I’ve been, which slowed me down from posting as well. Some things that happened were just the business of life, some things were other peoples’ stories to tell. And some things…. well, some things are just tough to talk about on what I always think of as my safe, delicious place.
It wasn’t all doom and gloom that kept me busy. I was up to some fun things, too, while away. I had some great job opportunities. I had 2 kids graduate from high school. I wrote a couple cookbooks (a gluten free and a slow cooker one) and a dairy free one will be out in March. My oldest graduated from college and started being a full-time Adult (notice the capital letter). I celebrated my 25th wedding anniversary, which just proves that if you can find that one special someone you can annoy for the rest of your life, you’ll be set. However, in the midst of all the good things, bad things got tangled together as well. Life can be like that sometimes.
My parents have lived with us for the past 16 years and last summer my dad was diagnosed with Espophegal Cancer. In fact, I had gotten the advance copy of my first book on the same day that his cancer was confirmed. My book, which I had been dreaming about doing for who knows how long, suddenly didn’t seem important in the of scheme of things. Like I said, all the good and bad tangled up with each other. My dad’s cancer was pretty tough to treat and he did end up passing away this past March.
Yesterday I finally shook my head clear of the fog it’s been in, and decided that it was time to get myself in gear. I’m feeling the stirring of creativity again, the desire to share, the energy to put back into it again. Grief is a funny thing. It can really sap your energy on a deep level. I have suffered, what I can only describe as a grief relapse from time to time. While I know it is a perfectly normal thing to go through, when they happen they are hard on my productivity. Trying to push through grief is like moving through mud, where everything takes a little more energy, like something (or several things) has been added to my to-do list every day. Have breakfast, miss dad, get ready for the day, miss dad, send emails, miss dad, start laundry, miss dad, go to work, miss dad, pick up groceries, miss dad… Grief just takes up so much time, like having a whole other job that wants all of your attention.
We have gotten through seven months so far, with the upcoming holiday season looming a bit. Easter was the first major holiday after dad passed, but we were still so shocked and freshly wounded, that we managed to get through it in a fog. We don’t yet have the practice at filling in the dad shaped hole in our world just yet, so I am heading things off a bit by planning. My thought is that if I have things in place, planned and pre-made a bit, by the time Thanksgiving and Christmas are here we can take the time to just be together, cry a bit if we need to, and have the time to laugh together, too. And maybe you are facing the same thing – a loss or a new circumstance that has made the holidays seem just a bit harder to face. My hope is that writing out how I plan on moving forward will help you as well. Besides, there will be cookies. That always helps, right? 🙂
Love you Angela! Glad you are back!
Yes it’s truly hard to enjoy comfort foods when u can’t have gluten dairy etc. buy prepared food a lot have carbs, salts & words u can’t read. So u have to make yourself, but cookbooks Have lots of time a long list of ingredients (celiac) u have to buy to make simple things , like cakes cookies muffins. I have a book that I need only 4 ingredients ?. Wish there were more books like that. Help
I just found your website as I’m searching for gluten and dairy-free recipes for our up-coming Easter dinner this weekend. Our 15 year-old granddaughter was diagnosed nearly 2 years ago with IBS as well as intolerance to lentil products. Our 47 year-old son is also gluten and dairy intolerant, so our family gatherings have become very difficult to plan for and prepare, so I’m looking forward to utilizing this website